basic profile formula

After looking at several hundred profiles over the last few weeks, a pattern is emerging. On almost any profile men will include the following pictures:
1. Holding a big fish
2. Holding or standing next to a child/baby
3. Performing some activity or a photo that shows muscles
4. Standing in front of a house
5. Standing in front of a car/bike
It is interesting to note that many men list in their profile that they don't have kids, don't want kids, don't want to date a woman who has kids, don't want to date a woman who wants kids - and yet they still include a photo of themselves with kids. I wonder if the picture is to show that even if they hate kids, they won't eat or kill small children in your presence. LOL!
Also, I wonder who the kids are that they include photos of?

Beware of guys who post naked chest shots

So, the first time I was on match, I got an email from a man asking me to email him full body shots. I told him that I was just easing my way in and not really sure if I was ready to date yet. He responded that guys need to see the goods and suggested that I "wouldn't be sorry". I told him that honestly I just wasn't ready yet and he emailed back to tell me to get over myself. He said that if I didn't realize soon that the world didn't revolve around me, I would end up lonely and frustrated within the year. I blocked him from my profile. A few weeks later he came back under a different profile and initiated contact again. I blocked him again. Then I went through a time where I thought I was never going to be ready and removed my profile. When I decided that I actually was ready to date, I put up a new profile. The dude found me again. I am just ignoring him.
Oh, I almost forgot. His original profile included photos with naked chest proudly displayed. I think it might be good advice to avoid men who do this.

How damaged are you?

Yesterday on Match.com a gentleman IM'd me to ask "How broken are you?" and "Can you be repaired?" Actually, i think I was broken during the time I was trying to fix my marriage. Now that I am happily single, I feel totally whole. I suppose there are all different sorts on dating websites, and some of them are very broken. I wonder how many of those on the site (men and women) ARE broken and broken beyond repair. How can you discover that they are in this state before they start stalking you?

Casual encounter? I think not.

Last night I got an offer for sex from a guy on match.com. The conversation went as follows:
Me: How's the match stuff going for you so far?
Him: Ok but right now I am just looking for sex.
Me: Any luck? I would think that women need at least a few dates to determine if they want to hook up. How many times do you meet someone before you move on? Are you picky about who you hook up with? Do you have repeat encounters? Are the women that you like put on booty call speed dial?
Him: Well for sex there is no dating and I have had repeated encounters.
Me: Awesome. Good luck with that!
Him: I guess you don't want to have sex ;)
Me: Well, not at the moment and I hate to keep you waiting. LOL!

Let me just say a few things. First, I am NOT going to be blogging about actual sex. That stuff is private and I am not an exhibitionist . . . at least not at this time, ha! Second, I immediately crossed this guy off my list of possibilities because I think that I need at least a few dates to determine whether or not I am even interested in having sex with someone. Craigslist is the place to go for casual encounters.

So, Mr. "U don't have to call", I certainly won't!

Adventures in online datine

I am in the process of getting divorced and have been exploring the world of Match.com. This is the third time I have posted a profile and I have only actually gone on one date. The man I met was very nice, although between our schedules and children, I am not sure if I will see him again!
In the beginning I responded to every email that I got . . . clearly not a good idea because once the dialog gets going, it tends to keep going. I don't want to spend all my time writing emails to people I probably won't ever meet. So, lesson number 1 is - don't respond unless you really want to know more about whoever emailed you.